Men Express Themselves
Sometimes, We Misread Others
By Russell A. Irving
Who doesn't like to believe that they can read another person's body language? Come on! Raise your hand high!Well, I hate to burst your bubble, but even I have misread others' body language, more times than I care to count.
I remember, decades ago, when I was at a Singles' function, where I saw several, stereotypically stunning women leaning against a bar, some with a drink in hand. I made the assumption that they were being aloof, waiting for a stereotypical Prince Charming to stroll over and wisk them away in his BMW.
Over the years, I have seen time and time again where a woman or man misinterprets another's body language or why someone is staring at them.
Then there was the woman who was certainly overweight by 'whomever's standard'. She did not realize that the man who turned his head away upon seeing her come in his direction, enjoyed seeing a curvy, well-rounded woman and was embarassed for whatever weird reason he had to feel that way.
I have been at meetings where I misread a person's constant twirling of hair or tapping of a pen to mean that they wished to be elsewhere or were extremely nervous regarding the topic at hand. Yet, afterwards I learned that they were at their best and sharpest when they indulged in these longterm habits.
Some people wear what appears to be a frown, not for typical reasons, but simply because that's their facial expression, 'at rest'.
And, let's not forget about the end of that great first date, You are at her door and she tilts her head slightly after explaining what a wonderful evening she had with you. Do you go in for the kiss? Or, go for her cheek? Or...
So, what is my point here? Is it simply to pojnt out that you don't and likely will never be able to accurately read someone's body language?
Copyright Russell Irving 2013