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Bumping Into Your Ex – How to Handle the Situation

Author: David Ward

It's the nightmare scenario we've all encountered at some stage in our lives – bumping into our ex unexpectedly. Knowing what to do in this situation is never straight-forward, and because it's an occurrence usually thrust upon when we're not ready, it can be easy to feel caught off-guard and pressured into saying or doing things you absolutely don't mean to.

You might try and do all you can to avoid it, but if you both still live in the same town or city, and visit the same places, it's bound to happen at some point. When it does, it's always best to be prepared:

Be Polite

Although it may not have ended amicably, try to make the effort to be polite and courteous when you run into your ex girlfriend. There's nothing to be gained from being frosty and letting the hostilities continue. It'll only make things worse if you run into each other again, so try to keep things civil. Show an interest in what they've been doing since you both decided to move on.

Don't Overcompensate

The temptation to brag (or fabricate) about how great your life is since you broke up might be seem an enticing one, but it reeks of bitterness. Try to be modest. Being overzealous will only make you look resentful, and make your ex believe that you aren't over them. Act normal and don't do anything rash.

Don't Try to Avoid Them

The last thing you should be doing if you see your ex coming towards you is cross over to the other side of the street – particularly if they've already spotted you! Similarly, if you find yourselves at the same party or social event, don't weave and circulate in a way which makes it obvious you're avoiding them. If you find yourself in the same place, address the situation and confront it head on. This way, you're letting them know that you're okay with things as they are, that you're comfortable with the situation and that you're getting on with your life. This will also ease up potential future meetings with your ex.

Be Mature About Any Unfinished Business

If you've got any ties or unfinished business which needs resolving, try to be as co-operative as you can about it. Be fair with regards to sharing or splitting any property or household goods you co-own, and try to return any items which they may have left at your house or apartment. Keep it simple.

And Regarding Issues of a Sensitive Nature…

Calling up an ex to tell them that you might have an STI is never easy, but it has to be done. When it comes to people's health, you can't let embarrassment get in the way and leave anything to chance. If you think you may have contracted an STI and your ex may be at risk, do the right thing – let them know, so they can get themselves checked.

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About the Author

David is a seo professional and loves to write on various topics ranging from dating to healthcare.