Men Express Themselves
Merely owning up
Let's start off with a quick quiz. Only 1 question.
Come on, now. Be honest. - More than you would care to admit?
There are 3 main types of spousal apologies.
In a second type of apology, we had intentionally done the dastardly deed, hoping not to be caught. And, having been called on it by our wife or husband, we did what was expected of us: ask for forgiveness and vow to not repeat the action. This time, however, we crossed our fingers when speaking. So that we believe our vow to them is not valid. And our internal vow is simply not to get caught, again.
The third type of apology is one where we mouth the words, but in our heart don't believe that our actions were any big deal. So that the words we speak are meant simply to appease our spouse. And, the intent to not repeat the action is only half-sincere. We try to avoid repeating the same mistake, but if it happens again, we will probably just shrug our shoulders and seek another round of forgiveness. - We haven't accepted that we all have 'sore spots' which might not be meaningful to our partner, but should be respected, nonetheless.
Mistakenly, we all too often believe that by owning up to our errors in behavior and apologizing for them, our spouse will forgive us. - Whether or not they verbalize it, our husbands and wives only pay so much attention to this lip service. They recognize that there are the above types of apologies, out there. How they will respond to you, down the road, will be based in large part on which type
they believe that you have given them.
Bottom-line? Apologies are important in a marriage. However, your sincerity and future actions matter much, much more.
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